I did a quick read of Craigs List Rants and Raves and found the following:
"Ok so here is my rant for the day. I am a 42 year old male and it seems that I cannot meet a woman (no matter the age) that wants to commit to anything more then either friends or friends with benefits. I cannot find a woman that does not just want sex or does not want more then friendship. I am looking for a woman who is down to earth and easy going. someone who has some morals and values that is not a game player and is not materialistic. A good old fashioned country girl. Who wants a man who wants to share his hopes and dreams and deepest parts of his life with her. That likes the old fashioned chivalrous hardworking type that is also a southern man that believes in respecting women.
Someone who is not just a friend of a friend with benefits but someone who is more physiologically and emotionally intimate then that. A good woman and I am wondering where they all have gone. A woman that likes a man who looks at a woman as a human and looks at the inside and not the outside. One who is not 420 not a druggie not a drinker not one to sit on the computer.
where have all the good women gone? "
It struck me enough that I did something I rarely do... I responded:
"Oh... we are out here. I have been on my own for the past 10 years, take care of my own mortgage and bills, spend my 'extra' money fixing up my rental and the 4-acre 'farm' I own. I mow my own yard, built my own kitchen cabinets, raise/dye/spin/knit my own yarn. I cook, I do keep my house clean (if not necessarily tidy). I can use a table saw, router and power driver. I can food from my garden and just build a grape arbor. And I am not a lesbian.
But in 10 years, I have found a lot of men who are willing to be 'friends'... even friends with benefits, but who are not interested in anything else. Why? They fall into three categories. They are either intimidated by the fact that I do all of the above, they do not like the fact that I can not just STOP attending to my responsibilities to focus 100 percent on them or they are turned off by the fact that I carry 20-40 pounds more than what they think I should.
Fortunately for me, I like my life and really don't care about 'looking' for the right man. If one that will fit into my life comes along, terrific. If not, the simple fact is that I don't NEED one.
Maybe that is the problem you are having... what you are looking for is a woman who does not NEED a man. Which means they probably are not hanging around waiting for one... they are too busy off living their lives. "
What I found interesting was the responses to both of the posts. The other responses to the first post were ALL (so far) comments on how he would not find what he was looking for because ALL woman in their 40's are materialistic/only interested in young men/trying too look 20/fat/etc. The responses to MY post were ALL (so far) comments about how I was full of myself/lying/blind to my own faults/etc. Oh... and several lovely ones about how I am a fat, ugly cow... one even suggested I should just kill myself to end my miserable experience. Taking the fact that this IS from R&R, I think I can ignore all that, but I did find the difference in how the two posts were addressed mildly interesting. If it were NOT R&R, I might have even found it fascinating but since all the responses were probably from the same woman hating troll in his mothers basement, it gets downgraded to mildly interesting.
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